00:0003:00
Finding God’s Choice for Your Life’s Mate
“I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye” (Psalm 32:8).
Everywhere I go, I am approached by young adults who want to serve God during their single years. While Scripture teaches that some people are called and equipped for a life of singular service for God, generally, marriage and family are part of God’s design for His children. The great struggle is discerning the difference between what we want and what the all-wise God desires for us. Over the next few days, I would like to share some principles from Scripture about finding God’s choice for your life’s mate.
When I was a young man, I started thinking and praying about the person that God had for me. In that process, we tend to develop our own ideas and hear the opinions of others. Yet, as with all of life, our ideas and others’ opinions are not always best, but God’s choice is always right. Jim Elliot famously wrote that, “God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with Him.”
The Blessing of God’s Choice
My wife and I have been married for almost three decades. She is my best friend, and in this series, we discuss the need for friendship in marriage. Tammy and I were in a group of friends, and we started talking with one another. God knit our hearts together, and for over 30 years, we have enjoyed this wonderful journey together. Tammy is the person God chose for me.
I can testify that God’s choice is always best, and God’s choice is always right.
The Desire for Companionship
All of us are instilled with a desire for companionship. We were created for companionship. It is true that some people are gifted by God to be single. God sets certain people apart for His service (1 Corinthians 7 teaches on this). However, the general rule is that God made us to be married, to be fruitful and multiply, and to have families. “God setteth the solitary in families” (Psalm 68:6a).
Don’t you think that the God who defined and established the family from the very beginning knows what is best for us? A desire for marriage is not wrong! It is natural; it is even good in many ways. What is wrong is to attempt to do it in our own way. We need divine wisdom and risk disaster when we make decisions on our timetable or in the way we deem best.
This is where it is important to say, “I want to find God’s choice for my life’s mate.” This is where a natural desire becomes a spiritual decision. It is as we yield to His will that He can lead and guide us to His choice.
Choosing to Let God Choose
Psalm 47:4 says: “He shall choose our inheritance for us, the excellency of Jacob whom he loved. Selah.”
God chose Israel’s inheritance for them. He loved His people. And He loves you! God always chooses what is best for those whom He loves. You can rest in His will.
What is true for a nation is also true for His children individually. God loves us with a perfect love. We can trust Him to choose what is best in every area of life. At every step, “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Life is full of complex choices, but one thing helps to simplify them. Choose to let God choose for you.
It is my hope that you will watch this short video series, take notes of the ten Bible principles and begin to apply them to your own life. I cannot tell you God’s will for you or help you find your life’s mate, but I do believe God’s Word will guide you as you seek His choice.
(In addition to the video series, you may want to use the corresponding devotional reading plan here. Visit https://enjoyingthejourney.org/resources/resources-for-single-adults/ for additional tools especially for single adults.)
*WATCH SCOTT’S 10-PART SERIES ON THE PLAYER BELOW.
STUDY PAGE: Resources for Single Adults
Discover more from Enjoying the Journey
Subscribe to get the latest posts sent to your email.
